I was with a group in Missouri this week and this topic came up. I used this from the Exceptional Leadership book ( Health Administration Press, 2006, Carson F. Dye, & Andrew N. Garman)

A fundamental polarity in the leadership role involves the balance between self-interest – what you do to serve your own needs - and selfless interest – what you do to serve the needs of others (or the needs of an organization). Balance means that both sets of needs are adequately served. Too much emphasis on the selfish side, and your influence in the organization may erode, or fail to develop in the first place. Too much emphasis on the selfless side, and the responsibilities of your role will erode your familial relationships, your health, and your well-being.

Serving the needs of others - oh, that we had more leaders who lead in that manner.